Failure—it’s not a fun thing to think about. Failing hurts. Failing can tear us apart. Failure makes us think we are not good enough.
But what if you look at failure in a way you might not usually see it?
Failure teaches us lessons. Failure helps us grow. Failure leads to new discoveries.
Failing isn’t the worst thing that could happen. What’s worse? Failing and not learning from your mistakes.
Here are 4 reasons why failure is good for you!
1. Failure redirects us
Sometimes we feel like giving up on our dreams because we fell down on the first step we took to get there. Maybe the whole reason we fell down is because we were on a bumpy, unstable path that we weren’t meant to be on. Failing gives us an opportunity to take a look around and reevaluate our situation—to make some repairs to the path we originally set out on.
2. Failure builds empathy
When we fail, we have something inside of us that wants to be comforted. It is so much easier for us to know how to comfort others in times of failure when we ourselves have failed. The next time you see someone hit a roadblock or fail at something they were shooting for, comfort them knowing what it feels like to fail.
3. Repeated failure provides a better chance at success
When we fail, we have a few options. We can get down on ourselves and create excuses for our failure:
- “It’s not the right time”
- “I didn’t prepare enough”
- “It’s too hard”
- “I’m too busy”
- “I’m not as good as they are”
Our better option is to stand up, brush ourselves off, and move forward. Learn from your failure and apply that knowledge. Figure out what you can change to succeed in the future.
The more times you fail, the closer you get to success. What if you gave up after failing six times and the success would have come on the seventh attempt? How bad would that make you feel? Keep moving forward and climb the ladder to your goals and dreams.
4. When we fail repeatedly, it becomes less scary
Failure is something many of us fear—I know I do at times. Sometimes what we fear most is the unknown. The unknown is scary because we don’t know what to expect. The more we venture out into the unknown, the less scary it seems. The same thing goes for failure—the more we do it, the less scary it becomes.
Once we make it through failure #1, we realize we survived. We know it won’t be the end of the world if we don’t succeed, so we are a little more open to taking that next step. And the next step. And pretty soon, we’ve accomplished something that seemed much more difficult at the time of the first failure.
Most things worth doing have the “risk” of failure. Life would be so boring if we only did what we were comfortable with. Here’s my challenge for you:
- Decide what you would do if you knew you couldn’t fail. (If you haven’t read this post yet, check it out!)
- GO DO IT! Go for it. Who cares if you fail? You’ll learn from it and be a better person because of it.
- If you failed this time, try again! Success will eventually follow your failure(s).
I’ll leave you with this quote from Malcolm S. Forbes: